I was reading a special feature in Glamor magazine yesterday. It was an issue with Tanya Bahr on the cover and it was about super video bloggers conquering the world. I thought she might shed some light on how to be a super vlogger, but basically Tanya is nice and works really hard.
Thanks for the enlightening content, Glamor.
Anyway, the specials I was reading were all about the birth of a baby. There were a lot of opinions from different women, some said that they wanted to have many children, but many said that they were not ready to have children, and that they were 100% sure that they did not want children at all. There were some people.
What really stood out to me was how many people seemed to be putting their lives on hold when they had children, or seemed to think they would need to do so once they had children in the future. Some said they didn’t want children because they wanted to travel and focus on their careers. Yes, there are many career women out there who have a wanderlust. But I don’t understand where the idea comes from that it can’t be done:
- I have children and a career
- traveling with children
So I want to set the record straight for all the women out there who, like me, want it all.
You can have kids, have a career, and travel. If you’re lucky, you might be able to participate in social life.
It’s often said that you can’t have your cake and eat it too, but you can actually have it i will do it. In fact, he can even eat two pieces of cake. Because running around after your kids burns so many calories and probably requires extra energy.
My son, George, is 8 months old. He has been overseas on his two occasions so far, one to the Maldives and one to Portugal, and we travel all over the UK all the time. George goes to his nursery two days a week so I have time for myself and time for his work. He loves daycare so I don’t feel any guilt in my body about sending him there. Sometimes it’s a little too much and I don’t want to go home.
I take inspiration from the “4-hour work week” to work smarter, not harder. It’s amazing how much more you can get done when you try to squeeze a full-time job into two days a week. I outsourced some work, bartered hard, and my blogging business grew and grew. The only time my income went down was in the month I gave birth. I’m not going to beat myself up about that!
Yes, it can be difficult. I can’t keep my eyes open, so I sometimes fall asleep right after eating dinner. Sometimes I look at Sam and realize we haven’t had a proper conversation in over a week. I sometimes hate saying no to exciting travel opportunities because I don’t want to be away from George for too long. But mostly, I feel lucky to have been raised to have an attitude that I can have it all. I would like to thank my parents because I never thought I would be able to do it.
I wrote this article because I received a lot of emails from women who love to travel, love their careers, and love the idea of having children one day. That “someday” may not last another 10 years, but rest assured that you can have it all if you want it, and life doesn’t have to stop just because you have a baby.